Cash for Kaddish
My wife was contacted through the internet by a person seeking someone to say Kaddish for a deceased relative for a year. So my wife asked me if I would do it. I readily agreed, I have no problem saying Kaddish for someone. That then turned into an internet back and forth. Essentially the person wanted to know how much I charged. My response:
Yes I know that there are various groups that charge various fees to have your loved one’s name included in a group that someone says Kaddish for, or even more money to have it done by an individual. I am not speaking against any of those groups. They provide a valuable service for folks who may live in communities where they don’t have a daily minyan, but still want Kaddish said every day.
However, I have no idea how to price fix something like that. I mean it is not a great deal of added trouble. I would be in minyan everyday anyway. I would be following along in the siddur and saying Amen in the appropriate places. Now instead I will be saying the Kaddish with the Shliah Tzibur instead. So how do your charge for something like that?
My general and ongoing response was that I will gladly do it for the person without a fee. If they felt like they wanted to give me some sort of financial benefit from it, then they should decide whatever they thought was fair and give that, but even if they don’t I will do it simply because it is a Jewish soul that needs Kaddish said.
What can I say? I never want to look into the mirror and see a charlatan staring back, and I have really hard time justifying asking for money in order to say Kaddish instead of answering Amen.